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PRACTICE SELF CARE

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There are many reasons one may seek out personal growth. Perhaps a new career is on the horizon, or one has decided to head back to school, there are a number of large life changes that can help a person grow as an individual. However, these situations can often be stressful. To deal with the stress in a healthy way, one must not forget the necessity of self-care.

Exercise and Eating Right

Stress can take a heavy toll on the body. This is especially true for those in addiction recovery, as stress can often lead to the temptation to relapse. Exercise is a good counter to stressors for a number of reasons. Not only does it make you feel better physically, your brain gets a boost from the chemicals released, but also from the natural response to exercise: breathing deeply. Yoga is a good choice for your exercise regimen, but so is Tai Chi, Qigong, or even just walking. Eating well can impact how you feel, too. It's easy to grab something pre-made, either from the store or fast food, especially when we're feeling pressed. Instead, take the time to make a fresh, mineral and vitamin-rich meal. Supplements such as magnesium can help you relax while foods and drinks containing caffeine, alcohol and processed sugars can increase these negative feelings.

Put Your Needs First

To properly see to your own needs, you may need to refocus your priorities. Take some time and decide what is important and what you need to do to relax. Sometimes, we need to cut back on some of our commitments to do so, and that is OK. After all, you deserve to be happy, and do things that fuel that happiness. Your journey toward personal growth may eventually lead to happiness, but don't put how you currently feel on the back burner. Make time to do something you truly enjoy, simply because you enjoy it. It may help to make a list of small things that make you happy or relax you. Make sure you're checking off something from this list frequently to ensure you're seeing to your own wellness.

Socialize on Your Terms

It can be difficult to find a suitable time to catch up with friends as we age. Everyone is working, or busy with their own families. However, having one chat over a cup of coffee a week can have lasting impact on our mental health. By catching up with those closest to us, we may have a greater sense of contentment in life. Not only that, but it's fun to see our friends and spend time together. That being said, you should not always be the one to compromise on time to see a friend. If you're too busy, say, Saturday, and the only way to meet up would be to sacrifice an hour of sleep, it might be a good idea to postpone until next week. It may be difficult to say no at first, especially to someone you care about, but be as honest with them as you can be.

Calm Yourself

It may not be obvious at first, but practicing ways to calm yourself down is important. This could mean starting up a yoga practice as mentioned, or it could mean taking a long bath full of essential oils to help you relax. When we put our own needs first and take time to actively lower our stress and heart rate, we improve the quality of our lives. Find something that helps your body to let go of tension and practice that not only when you feel stressed, but as a daily ritual. The repetition may help you ward off stress before it crops up.

You need to take care of yourself during any time of additional stress. While working toward personal growth is important and a worthwhile goal, the change it brings can cause additional anxieties to surface. By practicing self-care each day, you may have a more positive, happier experience than you might otherwise.

Guest Post by author Brad Kraus

ALL BRAINS NO BRA

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Guest post by Marilyn Mars

Why is there this big stigma, with girls not wearing bras and being considered promiscuous? Since puberty we are told that we have to wear bras. I remember being told that guys will stare at you differently if I didn’t wear one. Differently being code word for sexualized. I didn’t know what I was being protected from or why that was even such a thing to worry about. How sad is it that at a young age we instill this fear of self-image at such an early age. How crazy is it that we simply allow this behavior of men to dictate how we are raised and what we are supposed to do with our own bodies.

Wearing bras are a great and not wearing bras are great too. This article isn’t supposed to convince you to do one or the other. It is simply standing up for our freedom of choice and shedding light on a conversation that should always be available.

I was raised mainly by mother who gave me a lot of freedom with my choices in life and how I choose to express myself, therefore I never had an authority figure of any kind tell me what I should and shouldn’t be doing with my own body. It was my junior year of college when the staff of my school was repeatedly picking on me. I'll never forget the day I was called into the deans office to be told that a professor of mine was feeling uncomfortable with the fact that I do not wear a bra. Her voice sounded sweet as if she was talking to a naïve girl yet her subtext was pouring with overall scrutiny. All I could do in that moment was sit there and take it all in. I was scared to speak up on something that was clearly so messed up.

I am kind of what you call a goody two shoes, I never really have problems with people and I almost always follow the rules. To have someone call that to my attention was shocking for me. I didn’t know what I was doing wrong other than my professor sexualizing me. Yet somehow I was the one to blame. My biggest problem that people have when it comes to others not wearing a bra is that they think it is unprofessional. Oh, I went to an art school by the way.

But what is it about not wearing a bra deems unprofessionalism?

The truth is nothing. What is really unprofessional is when men use it as excuses to diminish you as a sexual object because they just cant do their jobs. There is nothing wrong with not wearing a bra. There is something wrong with people who sexualize you and act like they don’t have nipples or pretend boobs have this hypnotic force that harasses them to stare. Nobody should be told what not to wear. If you are in a nice blouse and slacks at work but are not wearing a bra; why and how is it not considered professional? Why should women have to fight for their place as professionals just because they do not want to wear a piece of lingerie under a shirt? Now, if you came to work shirtless, then yes I can see the problem. I think society has progressed a lot compared to our history and women in the workplace. But I think this goes beyond just women. Professional standards should be reviewed to fit a more realistic setting. For example, having tattoos and not wearing a bra shouldn’t be factors of defining professionalism. I understand that boobs and nipples in the female anatomy are sexual organs, this is true but if you are not in a sexual setting then you just have to control your desires as every other woman does in their workplace. There is just no excuse. The fact that there has been this invisible throne that man have abused to protect their sexual thoughts are simply unfair and old news.

Not wearing a bra does not give you the right to assume that I want or will do anything sexual for you. It doesn’t mean that I will fulfill whatever fantasy you have either. I choose to not wear a bra because I simply do not want too. I don’t have to prove or justify that choice to get validation from anyone. I am not looking for approval nor do I need it. I choose to not wear a bra because I am confident as a woman; a woman who embraces her spiritual and majestic body as a gift and not an object. I choose to not wear a bra because I am still as educated and refined with or without one on. I choose to not wear a bra because I will not let an article of clothing define my character or measure my intelligence. I choose to not wear a bra because I am free.

The ignorance of others, lack of respect, or assumptions will not phase my ethereal beauty.

Nor do you need to keep explaining yourself to people who will only understand you from their level and capacity of perception.

You can choose to wear a bra because it makes you feel sexy and empowered and comfortable and you can chose to not wear a bra for the exact same reasons but please don’t choose which one your going to respect and coexist with.

A CLOSER LOOK AT MILLENNIALS BEAUTY HABITS

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“Millennial” has probably been one of the biggest buzzword in the past couple of years. It seems that everyone wants to either praise, criticize or examine them from every angle possible, and it’s fairly understandable why this is the case. They are a remarkably interesting generation that holds perhaps diametrically opposing views from the older generations, whether the topic is politics, environment, lifestyle choices or even spending habits.

That brings us to today – yes, we are examining two of the most interesting and juicy topics de jour – millennials and beauty. Beauty used to be walking into a department store such as Macy’s, trying on a few items on their beauty counter, and even though women were always interested in looking their best, new releases, new shades, comparing products was rarely a topic of conversation. Enter millennials, who don’t only make up for a large portion of the $13 billion cosmetics industry, but have actually impacted the industry in more ways than one. So, millennials are reportedly twice as likely to be heavy buyers and account for 47% of all major purchases.

This is no small percentage, and it definitely deserves a closer look, so let’s uncover how and where all this money is being spent.

Beauty over fashion

One of the more surprising revelations is that millennials are virtually abandoning clothes and putting their money in makeup and skincare products. According to Business Insider, department stores such as Macy’s, Banana Republic and many others are being beaten by the beauty industry. In fact, beauty beats everything, as it’s on the top of the list, while cellphones and Uber come third.

They crave a good experience

The reason departments stores have taken a huge hit and stores such as Sephora and Ulta are thriving is simply because unlike department stores, they actually offer a great shopping experience. Both of these stores offer services such as makeup classes and makeovers and Ulta even has salons. Aside from that, these are the places where you can always ask and receive a sample, which is another thing millennials love. Makeup is pricey, so you want the luxury of testing out a product before you commit to purchasing it. If you think about it, this is a very smart and even frugal move.

Prevention comes first

Not such a long time ago, special attention to skincare, especially anti-aging skincare was paid by those who have already started noticing signs of aging. Oh, how the tables have turned. We don’t know whether Western women have taken a cue from those in Asia, particularly the eternally youthful Korean women, but more and more young women, even younger than 25, have already begun using anti-aging products from the great and renowned Aspect Dr skin care line. It has been visible, even on the runways, that nourished and pampered bare faces are the future, as well as minimal makeup, and the truth of the matter is, as frugal as millennials are (as they do have a lot on their plate) they aren’t afraid of spending a good deal of their disposable income on great skincare.

Holistic and green

In addition to openly preferring organic and natural products, millennials are aware that beauty doesn’t just come from using topical solutions, which is why an increasing number of them has adopted a holistic approach to beauty and skincare. According to ancient Ayurvedic teachings, there is an inextricable bond between the gut and skin, and that is precisely why aside from amazing topical products, millennials have experienced a mental shift and turned towards the pursuit of wellness and mindful living, as all of this doesn’t only increase the quality of life, but it shows on the skin as well.

Millennials do care

These are the words of Kat Von D, one of the ladies whose brand is killing it in the beauty industry. What do they care for exactly? They care about animals, the environment, which is why they are increasingly turning to new, independent brands such as Kat Von D, Tarte, Fenty Beauty and other ‘younger’, cruelty-free and vegan brands like Baiser Beauty and slowly but steadily abandoning older ‘more renowned brands’.

Brick-and-mortar isn’t dead

While being incredibly tech-savvy comes in really handy when you want to check online reviews, compare prices for the same product at different stores and hunt for discount codes, it comes as a bit of a surprise that many millennials still love the in-store experience and are more likely to actually purchase the product in a real store, at least when they’re buying it for the first time. It’s all about testing the goods, but online shopping comes at a close third spot, right behind Sephora and drugstores.

What do they love?

The list of some of the most beloved beauty and skincare products include face luminizers, highlighters for that craved dewy-look that everyone is raging about, as well as cream blushes and eye shadow pallets. Most importantly, millennials are considering makeup products that emphasize their own unique natural beauty instead of covering up their face with layers of harmful products, advocating for that strong message of self love that's been spreading across social media. A very positive shift. Overall, they choose brands that are vegan, cruelty free, and that are responsible towards the environment.

When it comes to skincare, people are still crazy about sheet masks, and of course, the inevitable incredible face oils, such as the Formula N°8 Revitalizing Face Oil that has become a staple in every girl’s skincare arsenal. Skin serums aren’t far behind, with moisturizers coming in third place in the skincare competition.

Written by Sophia Smith
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TIME FOR YOURSELF: THE MENTAL HEALTH BENEFITS OF SELF-CARE

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Despite its well-documented importance, self-care remains a misunderstood term by many people who associate it with luxury or self-indulgence. Generations of Americans have grown up with the notion that hard work and self-sacrifice are the most important virtues a person can exhibit. In recent years, the physical and mental fallout of that mindset has revealed some deep cracks in the old Protestant work ethic. Self-care is a far-reaching idea that doesn’t stop with your daily jog around the neighborhood. It’s a commitment to caring for your mental and emotional needs and taking time to do things that energize you, activities you start thinking about when that 3:30 meeting at work makes your eyes go glassy.

A good relationship with yourself

Self-care is how you feel when you’re feeling relaxed reading a book or watching your favorite movie. It’s anything that makes you feel good about yourself and positive about your life. Self-care is something everyone needs, and if you don’t have it in your life, you feel its absence even though you may not be able to put your finger on it. Observing self-care is a way of recognizing that your needs are just as important as anyone else’s. The benefits are self-confidence and a general sense of well-being.

De-stressing

Self-care is how we alleviate the stress that comes from working every day and dealing with situations and crises that arise every now and then. This may be the most important benefit of self-care. It’s how we separate ourselves from everyday pressures so that they don’t define us. It’s why we should always work to live and not live to work, and maintain a healthy work-life balance.

Go natural

Spending time in nature is an excellent way to reduce stress and recalibrate your priorities. People who spend time hiking in the woods or going for a jog on the beach put themselves in an environment where contemplation and personal reflection come much easier. Interacting with nature reminds us what’s important in our lives and why there’s real value to all that pressure we deal with every day of the week. If you’re having trouble maintaining a sense of perspective, take an afternoon to walk through the woods and just let your thoughts wander free.

Sign off social media

Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter are good ways to stay in touch, but they can easily become an unhealthy obsession. If you don’t believe it, consider the fact that 67 percent of smartphone owners check for messages even when their device doesn’t prompt them. Self-care sometimes means separating from the chaos of the world and focusing on yourself. Doing so means shutting off the endless stream of stimuli that comes from social media and using the time to concentrate on your thoughts and feelings. So do yourself a favor and put the mobile devices away for a few hours every week and just enjoy the contentment and satisfaction of living in the moment.

Recovery

Self-care is especially important if you’re in addiction recovery. You need time to yourself, to make sense of your life and concentrate on maintaining your sobriety. Many people in recovery find it helpful to learn meditation or take a yoga class, activities that force you to focus on your thoughts and work toward achieving inner peace.

There are many aspects of daily life that challenge our ability to cope. Some people ignore the need to seek solace in individual pursuits, and suffer for ignoring the need for self-care. It’s a pleasurable way to work off stress by focusing on yourself and on what gives you joy.

Guest post by author Brad Krause