When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships. We begin to receive more of that, which we are grateful. We’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.
NOTHING IS PERSONAL
You take it personally because you agree with whatever was said. As soon as you agree, the poison goes through you, and you are trapped in the middle of a chaotic situation. What causes you to be trapped, is what we call personal importance. Personal importance or taking things personally, is the maximum expression of selfishness because we make the assumption that everything is about ‘me’ and it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to their level of consciousness, in a similar manner they are possibly only bit players in your drama, so you can choose not to give the bit players of your life control over your happiness. If you take the situation personally, you end up becoming offended and react by defending your beliefs and causing additional conflict. Refusing to take things personal you defuse the ego and help to de-escalate a potential conflict.
HELP NO MATTER WHAT
Very simple, practicing the Law of Giving is actually very simple; if you want joy, give joy to others; if you want love, learn to give love; if you want attention and appreciation, learn to give attention and appreciation; if you want material affluence, help others to become materially affluent. In fact, the easiest way to get what you want is to help others get what they want.
Research is beginning to reveal that positive thinking is about much more than just being happy or displaying an upbeat attitude. Positive thoughts can actually create real value in your life and help you build skills that last much longer than a smile. The benefits of positive emotions don’t stop after a few minutes of good feelings subside. In fact, the biggest benefit that positive emotions provide is an enhanced ability to build skills and develop resources to use later in life. Thinking positive is an attitude that you may try.
NEGATIVE PEOPLE ARE OUT
People have a huge impact on your life. “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with,” With this in mind, you should think about the people you’re spending time. Negative people suck out your happiness, energy and maybe some of your tangible resources as well. Positive people will inspire you to be a better person, provide you with motivation to achieve your goals, empower you to make the changes you need to succeed and cheer on your success. So think about what kind of people you are surrounding yourself.
NO VICTIMS ALOUD
One big problem a lot of people have is that they slip into thinking of themselves as victims that have little or no control over their lives. In this headspace you feel sorry for yourself, the world seems to be against you and you get stuck. Little to no action is taken and you get lost in a funk of sadness and self-pity. So to break out of that mentality you have to be responsible for your own life. We may in fact be the recipient of external forces outside our control, but we have the control over our reactions and responses in what we do and how we handle it.
EXERCISE AND EATING HEALTHY
If you start exercising, your brain recognizes this as a moment of stress. As your heart pressure increases, the brain thinks you are either fighting the enemy or fleeing from it. To protect yourself and your brain from stress, you release a protein called BDNF(Brain-Derived Neurotrophic Factor). This BDNF has a protective and also reparative element to your memory neurons and acts as a reset switch. That’s why we often feel so at ease and things are clear after exercising and eventually happy.
Eating fast food like hamburgers, sausages, and pizza, as well as commercial baked goods such as muffins, doughnuts, and croissants has been shown to be associated with an increased risk of depression, while eating fibers, fruits, veggies and proteins will boost your mood; There's a clear relationship between food and your state of mind. When you combine strategies for eating regularly with foods that may have a positive effect on your well being, you can plan meals that may help you to feel better. You can also avoid foods that may make you feel worse. Now that's something to be happy about!